Topics :Start A Business
“If you wait for the perfect moment when all is safe and assured, it may never arrive. Mountains will not be climbed, races won, or lasting happiness achieved.”
Maurice Chevalier (Singer and Actor; The Big Pond)
“I did absolutely nothing, and it was everything that I thought it could be.”
Peter Gibbons (Played by Ron Livingston; Office Space)
“Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.”
Salvador Dali (Artist; The Persistence of Memory)
Chasing perfection can ruin your life.
In 3 months I went from living in a friend’s basement and waiting tables to living in a penthouse, driving a Cadillac, and traveling the world. Then, I threw it all away.
After college, I took a year off to work while waiting to hear back from the medical schools I applied to. I didn’t get a fancy job though or anything that would look good on my CV. I got a job as a waiter. But it paid off because I ended up serving two really successful entrepreneurs who offered me a position as their research assistant. Things were great at first because they flew me to big conferences and took me out to big business dinners and introduced me to big names in the industry. They also bought me a new wardrobe, gave me a luxury car, and moved me into a fully furnished penthouse with a killer view. I was only 25. I’d meet rich people who were much older than me in the building’s elevator and listen to them say in disbelief, “Wow, you live here?” Life was perfect.
But over time I started to get treated more like a butler than a research assistant. I’d get called over at night to program their DVD player, change their laundry, or … More »
Topics :Live Like A Lion
“I don’t stop eating when I’m full. The meal isn’t over when I’m full. It’s over when I hate myself.”
Louis C.K. (Comedian; Live at the Beacon Theater)
“I don’t want everyone to like me; I should think less of myself if some people did.”
Henry James (Author; The Portrait of a Lady)
“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.”
Mark Twain (Author; Adventures of Tom Sawyer)
The only person who can destroy your self-esteem is you.
My first real girlfriend broke up with me and started dating my best friend while I was at a 28-day wrestling camp. It was the summer before my senior year of high school and I was over 1,000 miles away from home going through 4 grueling workouts a day. I bought a bunch of phone cards so I could call her every night before going to bed but about 7 days into camp she stopped answering the phone. Sometimes she’d answer but she’d always have to go after a few minutes. I asked her one day where she was going and she said jet skiing with my friend. Another time she said she was going to the movies with him. But they were just friends.
Eventually, about 14 days into camp, she told me that she wanted to see other people. I called my friend like 100 times but he didn’t answer. When I got back from camp she broke up with him and started dating me again. Then she broke up with me and started dating him again. On and on it went. I spent most of my senior year chasing her and being jealous of him and feeling pretty dumb about it the whole time.
In graduate school my advisor used to call me … More »
Topics :Emotional Intelligence
“I wonder how many times people give up just before a breakthrough – when they are on the very brink of success.”
Joyce Meyer (Author; 100 Ways To Simplify Your Life)
“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”
Mahatma Gandhi (Preeminent Leader of Indian Nationalism)
“Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.”
Napoleon Hill (Author; Think And Grow Rich)
Breakthroughs are easy to predict once you know where to look.
I was just about to drop out of graduate school for the second time when my advisor sent me an email telling me to write my thesis and set a date for my defense. I spent the last 18 months begging for permission to graduate but I kept coming up against a brick wall. I tried everything to get out. I networked, I published more, I walked on eggshells, and I laughed at important people’s jokes. When that didn’t work, I complained, I met with my department, and I went to the dean. But nothing changed. Then, at 7:57AM CST on a Tuesday morning I checked my email and read the sweetest phrase in the human language: prepare for your thesis defense.
The captain of our college wrestling team had a legit grown man-body with huge mountains of muscles everywhere. I looked like I had just gone through puberty. Yet, we were both in the same weight class and had to wrestle off for varsity. Whoever won 2 out of 3 matches would make the team. Of course he was going win. He was a year older and had won over 30 matches his freshman season. But somehow I won the first match 4-3 in a last second fluke. It was … More »
Topics :Find Your Purpose
“With the pride of the artist, you must blow against the walls of every power that exists with the small trumpet of your defiance.”
Norman Mailer (Pulitzer Prize Winner; The Executioner’s Song)
“Conventional is not for me. I like things that are uniquely [me]. I like being different.”
Florence Griffith Joyner (4X Olympic Gold Medalist; Track & Field)
“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.”
Mark Twain (Author; Tom Sawyer)
Fitting in brings out the worst in people.
I moved 3,000 miles away for college and it felt like a dumb decision from day one. All I had with me was whatever clothes I could carry in a few checked bags. The other kids had furniture, mini-fridges, stereo systems, TVs, and new iMacs – those big bulbous desktop ones that came in different colors like purple or pink. The college was pretty upscale like that and definitely full of a bunch of trust fund babies. At least I think they had trust funds. I didn’t ever see any with my own eyes but I did see dozens of Escalades parked around all the dorms.
The kids on the wrestling team didn’t have trust funds. Like me, they didn’t go around wearing blue blazers and driving 80K cars. But they did have computers. And they were clever. And mean. At least the cool ones were. I didn’t know how to be cool. I tried to be cool but I always felt like I was on the outside looking in. I was too poor and too jock to fit in with the trust fund babies and too nice and too nerd to fit in with the cool wrestlers. I felt like I didn’t belong. This made me pretty miserable … More »
Topics :Live Like A Lion
“If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up people together to collect wood and don’t assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.”
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry (Aviator and Author; Night Flight)
“Progress isn’t made by early risers. It’s made by lazy men trying to find easier ways to do something.”
Robert A. Heinlein (Author; Stranger In A Strange Land)
“Vision without action is a daydream. Action without vision is a nightmare.”
Need drives action and everyone needs something.
I’m incredibly lazy. Not all the time but definitely when it comes to things I’m not interested in. Or when I don’t feel like I’m getting anywhere. The worst is when I really want to get ahead but don’t feel like I have any control over my progress.
I remember the exact moment in graduate school when I realized that my mentor wasn’t going to let me graduate no matter how many publications I had, or how many presentations I gave, or how many networking events I attended. I was just going to have to wait until he decided to let me leave. That’s when something inside of me died. Maybe it didn’t die but it definitely went to sleep. I lost all of my motivation. My mentor would yell and scream and I would smile and nod and then do nothing. Because there was no point.
My first job out of graduate school was amazing. I worked for a small software company and flew all over the world giving seminars. I got to make my own schedule and didn’t have to report to anyone. The funny thing was I kept trying to report to other people in the company. But nobody cared. Somehow, … More »