If someone starts playing the victim in your life, act quickly to diffuse the situation.
Listen to their problems—once. Let them get it all out and externalize what just happened to them. Then, when they’re ready, turn their attention towards solutions. Work with them to create a positive vision for their future. But, whatever you do, don’t empower their feelings of self-victimization. Don’t feed their problems with attention. Let them externalize once, then cut them off. Here’s how to have a zero tolerance policy for self-pity.