“I have not always chosen the safest path. I’ve made my mistakes, plenty of them. I sometimes jump too soon and fail to appreciate the consequences. But I’ve learned something important along the way: I’ve learned to heed the call of my heart. I’ve learned that the safest path is not always the best path and I’ve learned that the voice of fear is not always to be trusted.”
Steve Goodier (Author of A Life That Makes A Difference)
“There is a voice inside of you that whispers all day long, ‘I feel this is right for me, I know that this is wrong.’ No teacher, preacher, parent, friend or wise man can decide what’s right for you — just listen to the voice that speaks inside.”
Shel Silverstein (Poet & Author of A Light In The Attic)
“Your inner voice whispers, but speaks the loudest.”
Matshona Dhliwayo (Author of The Little Book of Inspiration)
There’s a cat brain in your belly.
There are between 400-600 million neurons in your gut.
But there are only 300 million neurons in a cat.
An entire cat.
Do you listen to your gut’s brain?
I used to tell mine to shut up.
I’d get a bad feeling and say, “Quiet, gut! I’ve got this.”
Then things would blow up in my face and I’d wonder… what happened?
I didn’t pay attention to any of this gut feeling stuff because I didn’t think there was any truth to it.
I didn’t think there was any science to it.
I was wrong.
Here are the facts…
We make decisions about a person we’ve just met in the first 6 seconds.
We don’t know anything about them.
You’re probably not even aware you do it.
It’s not a decision we make with our cognitive brain — not even our emotional brain.
On a deep, instinctual, biological level, we’ve made a judgment call.
A quick and confident judgment call.
In romantic relationships, we make an intuitive decision in under 60 seconds about whether we should engage with that person, and then spend the rest of our time either convincing ourselves in or out of that relationship.
Popular opinion and social expectations play heavily into those convincing moments.
When it comes to how you respond to other people, your “gut feeling” is instinctive and happens in mere seconds.
It happens before you’ve had time to make up a meaning for what happened.
It happens before you even understand what’s happened.
The American Psychological Association examined the phenomenon of instinctive feelings, referring to this process as knowing without having knowledge, or a sense of making a judgment without information, based on the power of “non-conscious” thought.
What they found was that multiple factors that are non-conscious go into forming split-second decisions which depend heavily on your subjective personal history.
These non-conscious factors can either serve you well, or destroy you.
You’ve heard it before…
Someone tells you that they ignored their “gut” and later regretted their decisions.
This same process reigns true over business deals, projects you’re invited to, and all levels of decision-making.
That gut impression, your inner voice, intuition, or other unspoken, irrational, impulse is part of being an animal.
That “gut feeling” is an actual physical sensation.
In terms of instinct — it can be powerful in keeping you alive, initiating fight or flight, or giving you a heightened sense of danger or threat — even if that threat is just a bad impression you get about a person.
We all have it.
Other studies have shown that when people are made aware of their heartbeats, they actually made better decisions.
In other words…
The more biologically attuned you are with your own mind and body, the better your judgment.
The more you listen to your inner voice, the better decisions you make.
The more you listen to others, on the other hand, the worse decisions you make.
Contrary to popular belief, popular decisions can ruin your life.
Why You Need To Ignore Other People’s Opinions Entirely
Other people’s opinions are cheap.
Asking someone else what you should do with your life won’t cost you much.
Everyone around you will happily tell you their opinions on how you should live.
People love to have their opinions solicited — this solicitation gives them a chance to tell you what to do.
It makes them feel important and wise.
“Don’t be so selfish.”
“Give more to others.”
“Put other people first.”
Blah blah blah.
People are happy to spew this kind of generalized nonsense to you all day long.
Their “wisdom” is based on how they’ve decided to live or to justify the choices they’ve made that were best for their lives.
But not yours.
Your inner voice, your instincts, your gut — it knows what’s best for you.
You know what’s best for you.
All the opinions in the world can’t override that persistent tug inside of you.
The problem is, you’ve been trained to ignore your inner voice.
You’ve been trained to obey society’s herd mentality and go along with what everyone else says is best for you.
And in doing that, you’ve become disconnected from your gut entirely, no longer able to hear your inner voice or decipher your inner voice from the noise of others.
Learning to reconnect with your inner voice and trust your gut is key for making aligned decisions for your own life as a self-directed individual.
Here are 3 reasons why you should reconnect with and listen to your inner voice…
1. Your inner voice protects you from being a sell-out.
Refuse to copy other people’s lives.
Refuse to copy their expectations.
The truth is, most people’s idea of normal is wrong.
Most people believe your life is a symbiotic or sacrificial event.
They believe that you are supposed to sell yourself — your very soul — for what they want for you.
The only way to be happy in life is to reject this idea.
You must constantly remind yourself that your life is an independent event.
Your gut feelings about where to go, what to do, who to be with, must come from the only person who has to live with the consequences of your decisions… YOU.
Your gut — your inner voice — is made up of your history in this life, your mistakes, and your desires.
Going against that internal directional tug means not living an authentic life.
It’s the worst betrayal ever — betrayal of self.
Being guided by your gut keeps your life unique and keeps you aligned with your purpose.
It keeps you moving in the right direction for you.
How do you know what’s right for you?
Does it bring you measurably closer to your own unique vision of your future life?
Does it physically feel good?
You want both.
You want it rationally — measurably — to make sense, and you want it to feel right.
What you choose should make YOU feel more confident in your direction and more focused in your goals.
It shouldn’t just make other people feel better about themselves and their choices.
It brings clarity and direction, and the long-term vision makes you feel excited and optimistic.
Don’t let the path of least resistance win by making you afraid.
Don’t fear going against so-called popular opinions.
Don’t sell out and just follow the crowd.
Be unique and listen to your unique inner voice.
2. Your inner voice protects you from being needy.
Look — popular opinions are usually wrong.
And all that matters is that they’re wrong for YOU.
You’ll never be successful in life by following a consensus blueprint for what you should do.
Go to college, graduate, get married, have 2.5 kids, work a mediocre job with a mediocre wage.
Depend on your boss for your success.
Depend on your spouse for your happiness.
Depend on your friends for direction.
Be needy, safe, and boring.
Tiptoe to the grave.
If you listen to popular opinions like these, you deserve to be a nobody in life.
You deserve to be dependent on other people for happiness and success.
The truth is, you don’t need popular opinion to tell you what to do with your life.
You don’t need other people to tell you how to solve your problems.
If you aren’t connected to your inner voice — to your deep gut impressions for your life — you’ll be swayed by everyone and everything around you.
You won’t be able to make aligned decisions for your life because you won’t even know yourself.
When you haven’t taken time to become self-aware — to know what makes you tick and to radically embrace your individuality — you become dependent on others for direction.
When you’re in touch with everyone else but not in touch with yourself — your life will spiral downwards.
You’ll look to everyone else for guidance and advice while losing your own power to choose what’s best for you.
You’ll lose your ability to make strong decisions.
The only way to prevent this is to take control of your life.
Take responsibility for it too.
Reclaim your independence.
Be responsible for your own success and happiness.
Base your decisions on the feedback you get from your life.
Not feedback from other people or from other people’s lives.
3. Your inner voice protects you from being manipulated.
Trusting your gut will protect you from manipulators.
Listening to your inner voice and ignoring the voices of others will fill you with confidence.
Over time, you’ll develop a strong knowing for what you want.
This knowing will serve as resistance against negative and controlling people.
When you rely on other people for guidance, you open yourself up to attack.
When you lack conviction, you become a target.
Once you compromise on yourself, you’ll compromise on anything.
Manipulative and toxic people rely on you asking for their advice.
They rely on you compromising on yourself.
The less you compromise, the more you protect yourself.
By listening to your gut, you can quickly disengage from toxic people.
In the first 6 seconds.
Bet on yourself.
It’s not a popular opinion to take bold, risky steps towards improving your life.
It’s not a popular opinion to eliminate manipulative and toxic people from your life.
Do it anyway.
If your inner voice tells you to walk away from someone, do it.
If your inner voice tells you a business deal is bad, pay attention and say “no”.
Use information and regulated emotions to make your decisions in life.
Use your brain, but use your gut too.
Be self-reliant and self-directed.
If you want to meet your goals, follow your rational mind and your inner voice — not society’s half-baked ideas about what’s best for you.
Everyone has an opinion. About their life, yours, and everyone else’s. Opinions are cheap. They serve as external validation of one’s own choices. They create noise in our lives and make it impossible to tune into our own inner voice. They distract us from following our gut and disconnect us from important information that we can use to make aligned decisions for our lives. When you ignore public opinion and listen to your inner voice, you are protected from being dependent, un-confident, and easily manipulated. By following your own inner voice instead of the many voices of others, you will succeed and thrive in life.
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