“An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.” —– Mahatma Gandhi
“The best revenge is massive success.” — Frank Sinatra
“Revenge is a powerful motivator.” — Marcus Luttrell
“The best revenge is not to be like your enemy.” — Marcus Aurelius
Revenge is sweet.
But, only when it’s the right kind of revenge.
That is, the non-obsessive type of revenge.
Revenge that will actually put you forward in life.
Revenge that gets you ahead of someone that was trying to hold you back.
Revenge that gets you beyond a situation that was out of your control that was stunting your growth in some way.
You can leverage that energy that you get from the idea of getting revenge on the people who worked against you.
There’s a lot of energy when it comes to revenge.
Just thinking about the people you want revenge on — the people who never showed up when you wanted them to, a past relationship partner, a previous boss, or maybe a current boss — causes energy to swell up in you.
How can you leverage that energy?
How can you stop obsessing about it and stop getting distracted by it?
And instead, leverage that energy to be more productive?
Why You Won’t Benefit From Getting Traditional Revenge
A study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology examined how participants felt about revenge.
The study found that when imagining revenge, participants thought they would feel better if they got revenge.
But,when participants actually did something to get revenge and harm the offender, they felt worse.
Enacting their revenge in the traditional sense — by harming the offender in some way — made the participant feel significantly worse, and they tended to ruminate about the event.
Not a good outcome.
And, while there are some studies that show revenge having a positive effect, the positive effect is on your mood.
This study found that the participants’ mood was improved from the aggression associated with getting revenge on the wrong-doer.
So,sure — you might feel better, for a few moments.
Your mood might improve.
But, your mood is temporary and influenced by any number of things.
Getting revenge (in the traditional sense of the word) is not going to make you better in the long run — it’s going to make you worse.
3 Intelligent Ways To Get Revenge
There is a wrong way and a right way to get revenge.
The wrong way leaves you exhausted and feeling shame.
The right way fills you with energy and increases your success.
Make sure you are enacting your revenge in the right way.
Here are 3 strategies for getting revenge in a way that propels you forward…
1. Be the most patient person.
The first thing that I want you to know is that patience is very powerful when it comes to getting revenge.
The more patient person always wins.
One of my favorite quotes is, “Wait patiently by the river and the bodies of your enemies will come floating by.”
So, what does that mean?
It means that sometimes doing nothing is the best strategy.
Set aside the desire to get revenge right now.
Revenge does not need to be immediate.
Even if it take 3, 4, or 5 years — that’s fine you can wait it out.
Now, that doesn’t mean that you stop taking action now — it just means that, overall, you are okay with getting ahead of that person a few years down the road.
Studies do show that most people drastically underestimate what they can do in a matter of months and years.
If you’re willing to wait months and years, you will exact revenge.
You will get ahead.
You will right that wrong.
So, being patient in the right way — without giving up on taking action in the here and now — is crucial.
2. Don’t run your mouth.
Be silent when it comes to your mouth.
This means don’t rant.
Everybody wants to posture, everybody wants to act so tough — whether it’s online or in person — because we want people to respect us.
But, this is what a child does.
Running your mouth to get back at somebody is a waste of all of that energy.
You’re releasing this powerful energy that you could use to be more productive, that you could use to get ahead.
Are you further ahead because of it?
No, you’re not.
So, what should you do instead?
Speak through your work.
Use that energy — the energy to get revenge — to speak through the things that you do.
Speak through starting your business, speak through the accomplishment of that next big hobby or thing that you want to achieve.
Leverage that energy through your work to get back at whoever it is you want to get back at.
Whatever injustice it is, get back at them through your work.
3. Hold on to the desire to get revenge and use it as your “why”.
Finally, use the idea of getting revenge as a personal reason “why”.
Revenge, getting back, making things even, righting a wrong — it’s a very powerful energy.
Turn it into your “why”.
Your “why” is the reason that you get up to do what you do.
Make it personal — don’t release it.
One of the worse things that you can do is take all of that energy you have to get back, or to get ahead, or to get revenge, and actually get revenge.
Studies show that if you get revenge you actually become less successful.
People who get revenge (in the classical ways of getting revenge) feel guilty afterwards — they have a release of that energy and they end up feeling bad.
They feel angry at themselves and it comes back on them in a very, very negative way.
So, when you release all that energy by actually getting revenge (in the traditional sense), it actually causes that desire for revenge to turn inward.
The revenge energy rears its head on you, and now you’re looking in a mirror because you’re the one that did something silly or foolish or small to get revenge.
You wasted that energy instead of using it in the long-run to better your life.
The better thing to do is to express your revenge outward, and use it to make the world a better place, and to have an impact on the world.
So, next time you feel the urge to right a wrong or to rise up at a sense of injustice, use it as energy to make an actual difference through work, through action.
Instead of dissipating all of that fantastic energy that comes from wanting to get revenge, harness it, and use it to your advantage.
The desire to get revenge is strong. So, leverage it to your advantage. Don’t just waste that powerful energy on frivolous revenge tactics. There is a way to harness that revenge energy and use it to propel your forward. To make the most of your revenge, you need to be the most patient person, not run your mouth, and hold on to the desire to get revenge so you can use it as your “why”. These strategies are the smart ways to get revenge.
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