Have you ever felt like you didn’t belong?
Have you ever had the creeping feeling that people at your job were going to find out you didn’t really know what you were doing?
This fear of being exposed as a phony is called imposter syndrome.
It’s very common.
The key to overcoming imposter syndrome is realizing everyone feels this way time to time.
Everyone doubts themselves occasionally.
The problem is not that you experience doubts, it’s that you expect to never have doubts.
If you’d rather read than watch, here are 3 strategies for dealing with imposter syndrome and self-doubt…
1. Celebrate and internalize your wins.
Confident people own their accomplishments.
The root cause of impostor syndrome, or never feeling good enough about yourself and your abilities, is an inability to internalize success.
People who don’t celebrate their wins always feel like they got lucky, slipped by, or had an unusual amount of help.
How many times have you said “good job!” to somebody for something just to hear them respond by saying, “Thanks, I got lucky” or “It wasn’t me, it was my team.”
And how many times have you responded this way when other people have congratulated you?
It takes integrity to own a victory.
Sure, you may have been lucky and you may have had help, but you did your part.
Even if you were just in the right place at the right time, YOU were still there.
Without you, your personal victory wouldn’t exist.
2. Raise the stakes on your goals and yourself.
If you want to stop feeling fake and not good enough, put more pressure on yourself.
That’s right—more pressure.
Too many people make the mistake of combating feelings of interiority by purposefully lowering the bar for themselves.
You know these types.
They’re the ones who say things like, “Oh, I’m not that good” or “I’ll probably mess up” before taking a particular action.
Some will even go as far as sabotaging their own performance in order to meet these lower expectations.
Listen—you can’t fight self-doubt with more self-doubt.
Trying to take pressure off of yourself by pretending to be more of a failure than you are will actually make you more of a failure.
You’ll have to set the bar lower and lower each time until what you do doesn’t matter at all.
A better strategy is to raise the bar on yourself.
Make what you do unbelievably important and take it seriously. Give your everything to it.
If you fail, it won’t empower your inner-impostor because you were striving for something great.
If you succeed, you’ll be forced to internalize the victory because you made it a big part of your life.
3. Stop putting other people on a pedestal.
The only thing that separates you from anyone else in the world is time and effort.
Anything that anyone else can do, you can do.
The fastest way to use your fears of never being good enough to your advantage is to accept that everyone else is never good enough.
If everyone is an impostor, then the word impostor loses its meaning.
Now everyone is just normal.
Too many people see great individuals or greatness in general as something that must be bestowed upon them.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
The people ahead of your in life are not better than you, they just have skills that you don’t have yet.
Be respectful of the people ahead of you but don’t respect them too much.
Realize you can do what they do and you can have what they have.
All you have to do is act.
Chances are, the people above you are also trying to be better versions of themselves.
They’re not special.
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