“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”
Steve Jobs (Founder & CEO, Apple)
“Father was the eldest son and the heir apparent, and he set the standard for being a Rockefeller very high, so every achievement was taken for granted and perfection was the norm.”
David Rockefeller (CEO, Chase Manhattan Corporation)
“The person who goes farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare. The sure-thing boat never gets far from shore.”
Dale Carnegie (Author, How to Win Friends and Influence People)
He revolutionized the oil industry.
He was the wealthiest American who ever lived.
But money wasn’t the most important thing to John D. Rockefeller.
To Rockefeller, lifestyle mattered even more than his business.
His business was part of his lifestyle.
Not the other way around.
Rockefeller was a devoted philanthropist, helping fund universities, medical science, the arts, recovery in Europe after the First World War, and he even taught Sunday school at his church.
Everyone thinks that being rich will make them happy.
They’re right, but they don’t understand why.
Wealth built on happiness creates more wealth.
A successful business doesn’t create a successful lifestyle.
A successful lifestyle creates a successful business, which in turn creates an even more successful lifestyle.
If John D. Rockefeller had only been interested in making money, he would have been just another loser chasing a dollar.
Instead, he spent each day pursuing the goals he had set for himself and his lifestyle.
Wealth doesn’t make your life matter.
Business doesn’t make your life matter either.
The lifestyle you create for yourself is what matters.
What Separates A Worthwhile Life From A Worthless One?
Experience creates wealth, not the other way around.
A study published in the Journal of Happiness Studies suggests that pursuing material goals decreases your quality of life.
It also suggests that pursuing non-material goals can lead to better psychological health and an increased quality of life.
In other words, when you pursue experience-based goals you live a better, happier life.
When you set experience-based goals, you change how you live your life.
When you focus on experiences, you put your lifestyle first.
Lifestyle is more important than money, but money still matters.
A study published in Science Magazine suggests that, contrary to popular belief, money actually does buy happiness, but only if you spend it correctly.
More specifically, people who spend money on experiences and other people’s experiences are happier than people who spend money on themselves alone.
5 Steps To Building A Lifestyle That Matters
Your mind is naturally designed to pursue goals that will make your life matter.
Most people don’t realize this.
They pursue short-term pleasures, ignoring the big picture.
As a result, they never do anything worthwhile.
Their lives go from having grand potential to having no potential.
Their lifestyle goes from promising to pathetic.
The only way to avoid this trap is to focus on building a lifestyle that matters.
You must design the ultimate lifestyle you want and then build a strong platform and business around that lifestyle.
Here’s how to change your lifestyle and stop feeling worthless…
1. Get what you want by working backwards, not by trickling forward.
People today are working harder than ever.
They’re making sacrifices today so they can “get ahead” later in life.
The problem is that these people don’t know how these sacrifices are going to actually get them ahead.
This is not only stupid, it’s counterproductive.
Why make sacrifices in the present if you don’t know where you’re going?
Why stay miserable and crazy busy when you have no idea if your goals are going to pay off for something bigger?
Look—‘trickle-forward’ goal-setting will get you nowhere in life.
Jotting down items on to-do lists and weekly calendars is a recipe for failure.
Shortsighted goal-setting doesn’t work.
You can’t focus on the big picture if you’re always putting out some fire at the office or responding to some dramatic plea at home.
Your sad little short-term goals will always distract you from your long-term goals.
Get rid of them.
Focus on your long-term, big wins.
Imagine the lifestyle you want 5-10 years from now and then work backwards by condensing this lifestyle down into 3-6 defined Outcomes.
Then break your Outcomes down into 3-to-9-month Benchmarks, then monthly Benchmarks, then weekly and even daily Benchmarks.
No matter how unrealistic a goal may seem, it can always be broken down into smaller, more defined goals.
The more you map out your future endpoint, the more your current life will matter.
2. Focus on things that move you forward, not things that just make you feel good.
If you want to build a lifestyle that matters, you have to constantly move forward.
You can’t get bogged down in things that just make you feel good but don’t contribute to your growth or success in any way.
You have to maintain a growth mindset, not a show-off mindset.
There’s a clear difference between growth-minded people and showboats.
Showboats are those who mortgage their homes to buy fancy cars.
Showboats flaunt their new titles and their new salaries.
They pay top dollar for the latest designer toys, drowning in debt to show off their “wealth.”
This look-at-me behavior means nothing.
Truly successful people build a strong lifestyle first, create strong habits, cut out drama and negative people, and design a Perfect Day.
They keep their attention focused on the success of their lifestyle and their lifestyle business.
Only then do they exploit their wealth and status to create an even more successful lifestyle.
Look—titles can be a symbol of your growth and a high salary can be a nice reward for your progress.
But don’t mistake the rewards for progress itself.
Otherwise, you’ll start to chase after the unimportant things that only lead to an unfulfilled life.
Stay focused on your growth.
Build the lifestyle and reputation you want first.
Then leverage your lifestyle and reputation to generate even more happiness and success for yourself and those around you.
3. Be deliberate with who you let into your life, not unintentional.
There are people in your life right now who shouldn’t be there.
These negative people need to be removed.
The naysayers, the ones who always tell you why your dream is unattainable and why you should just quit right now.
The people who want to see you fail.
The drama queens.
Getting rid of these people is essential.
The easiest way to eliminate these people from your life is to prevent them from becoming a part of it in the first place.
People whose lives matter don’t spend their time listening to toxic people.
This is because they‘ve filtered these dream-killers out of their lives and refuse to let any other dream-killers in.
You won’t live forever.
You don’t have unlimited time.
So why waste your time with people who will sap your time and energy?
The greatest people in history all surrounded themselves with people who encouraged them, while ruthlessly removing negative people away from them.
Follow their example.
Seek out people who are doing what you want to do.
Get in touch with experts in your field and ask them to mentor you.
When you meet someone new, don’t automatically let them into your social circle.
Make sure they won’t waste your time and energy telling you what can’t be done.
Make sure they are people who will provide genuine value to your life and who will accept value from you in return.
4. Chase passion and need, not money and titles.
Most people know who Andy Warhol was.
He popularized pop art.
His paintings have been displayed in museums throughout the world.
He coined the expression “15 minutes of fame.”
Andy Warhol mattered because he followed his passion.
Many people don’t follow Andy Warhol’s example.
Instead, these people prefer to live meek, safe little lives.
They follow money and job security instead of their passion.
That’s why these cubicle drones are forgettable.
That’s why the memory of these has-beens and never-will-be’s will fade away into oblivion.
Look—when people follow their passion, they’re magnetic.
The energy they give off influences people and compels them to follow.
If you have a passion, pursue it.
If you’re afraid of failing, just remember that those office rats who sacrifice their dreams for job security are letting other people decide their lives for them, including when they’ll stop working.
When you follow your passion, you get to be in control of your life.
Following your passion will also make you money.
Most people think passion follows money.
It’s the other way around.
Money follows passion.
There’s no mystery to it.
When you’re passionate about your job, you’re more likely to enjoy it.
When you build a passionate lifestyle, everything else will fall into place.
5. Be disruptive, but trustworthy.
If you want your life to matter, you have to be disruptive.
You have to be willing to shatter other people’s preconceived notions.
Refuse to accept the status quo.
Refuse to buy into the idea that “things are just the way they are.”
Instead, push the world to embrace something better.
Thomas Edison created the light bulb when the world was using candles and kerosene.
Investor and inventor Elon Musk created the Tesla electric car when everyone else thought the idea of driving electric cars was tried, failed, and dead.
Apple CEO Steve Jobs unveiled the iPhone to the public, obliterating the market for digital cameras, mp3 players, personal data assistants, and GPS devices.
These inventions changed society forever because their inventors saw an opportunity to improve upon old ideas while everyone else just accepted things.
If you want your life to matter, you have to question the way things are.
But you can’t just be disruptive.
You have to be consistent.
You have to be trustworthy.
People have to trust in your abilities.
People have to believe that you are going to do what you say you’re going to do.
You have to deliver value over and over and over again.
Making your life matter by doing something worthwhile won’t be easy, but it will be rewarding. When you’ve worked backwards from your goals and formed a clear plan of attack, you will feel energized and ready to begin. When your focus is on things that move you forward, you can bask in the accomplishment of progress. Chasing your passion will bring you success, and eventually people will trust you when you start disrupting their preconceived notions.
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