3 Intelligent Ways To Get Revenge That Will Propel You Forward

Published by: Isaiah Hankel

Topics :Emotional Intelligence



A study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology examined how participants felt about revenge. The study found that when imagining revenge, participants thought they would feel better if they got revenge. But, when participants actually did something to get revenge and harm the offender, they felt worse. Not a good outcome. And, while there are some studies that show revenge having a positive effect, the positive effect is on your mood. This study found that the participants’ mood was improved from the aggression associated with getting revenge on the wrong-doer. So, sure — you might feel better, for a few moments. Your mood might improve. But, your mood is temporary and influenced by any number of things.

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Why Trends Matter More Than Your Feelings

Published by: Isaiah Hankel

Topics :Emotional Intelligence



Trends matter. No matter what you’re trying to make happen for yourself, you cannot neglect looking at the trends. You are probably focusing too much on your feelings if you think that one negative health test means you definitely have a debilitating disease, or a bad day at work means your life is awful and you hate your career, or that one fight with your partner means you are in the worst relationship ever. Zoom out and look at the trends. Don't just look at snapshots. Trends are more important than feelings. Don't just look at one data point, or one snapshot, an n of one — instead, collect some more data and you'll get to where you want to go, faster.

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3 Ways You Should Be Comparing Yourself To Others

Published by: Isaiah Hankel

Topics :Emotional Intelligence



You are never going to be able to stop comparing yourself to others, even if you wanted to. As a human being, you are hardwired to compare yourself to others around you. It’s just a part of who you are as a social being. And, while left uncontrolled this natural tendency to compare can become negative, when leveraged properly comparisons will have a positive influence. For example, a study in the journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science found that in races where a runner was competing against a rival, they ran about 5 seconds faster per kilometer of the race. Another study in Frontiers in Psychology found that when participants knew they were being compared to a competitor, they had a significantly faster reaction time. Comparisons can make you better.

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How To Stop Letting Your Emotions Dominate You And Dictate Your Life

Published by: Isaiah Hankel

Topics :Emotional Intelligence



Success, in all areas of life, occurs because a person is already happy. Study after study demonstrates this relationship — that positive emotions predict how successful a person is in life. Experiencing more positive emotions is associated with having more success, better relationships, better health, and a longer life. But, no one experiences only positive emotions. So, what are these people doing differently? They know how to take control of their negative emotions and not allow that negativity to consume them. When people experience more positive emotions, they also report experiencing a higher level of life satisfaction. A study by Chapman University found that as people report higher levels of life satisfaction, their mortality rate drops by 18%. If you are less likely to die when you are satisfied with your life, and if experiencing more positive emotions leads to high life satisfaction, why haven’t you taken responsibility for your emotions?

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Overwhelm Is Not The Cause Of Your Burn Out. You’re Just Bored.

Published by: Isaiah Hankel

Topics :Emotional IntelligenceHow To Focus



Boredom is the cause of you feeling overwhelmed. You don’t feel overwhelmed and burnt out because you have too much to do — but rather, you are just bored. And boredom, especially at work, is very common. According to a Gallup survey, only 33% of employees are engaged at work, meaning that 67% of people are bored by their work. And many of those bored people, instead of recognizing their boredom, will blame overwhelm. They will blame never-ending deadlines and being overworked for their burnout. But, the only way to stop the burnout cycle is to address your boredom.

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