How A Narcissist Can Contribute To Your Happiness And Success

Published by: Isaiah Hankel

Topics :Emotional IntelligenceNegative People

“There are two kinds of pride, both good and bad. ‘Good pride’ represents our dignity and self-respect. ‘Bad pride’ is the deadly sin of superiority that reeks of conceit and arrogance.”

John C. Maxwell (Author, The 21 Irrefutable Laws Of Leadership)

“Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.”

Dale Carnegie (American Author, Speaker, How To Win Friends And Influence People)

“Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world.”

Helen Keller (Author, Political Activist)

Life isn’t fair.

Everyone knows it.

And yet, when someone lets you down or wrongs you, suddenly you expect it to be fair.

At least, for you.

And, the natural tendency is to look for someone to blame.

Because, there has to be a villain.

Very often in our lives, when we think something’s not fair, we feel a sense of pity, and because of that, we look for s...

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How Challenges In Life Will Make You More Successful

Published by: Isaiah Hankel

Topics :Emotional IntelligenceNegative People


“All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me… You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.”

Walt Disney (Cartoonist)

“There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time.”

Malcolm X (American Activist)

Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining — it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.”

Zig Ziglar (American Author/Speaker)

Gratitude is easy.

Everyone says so.

Having a gratitude practice improves your sense of well-being.

It helps redirect your brain to more positive states.

It increases happiness.

All that’s true.

But, here’s the caveat.

Gratitude is an easy mind-shift when things are going your way.

Being thankful for getting what you wanted is a breeze.

But, how do you react w...

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Fake Friends Are Sabotaging Your Success

Published by: Isaiah Hankel

Topics :How To FocusNegative People

“The people you surround yourself with influence your behaviors, so choose friends who have healthy habits.”

Dan Buettner (Author, Blue Zones)

“You become like the people you spend the most time with.”

Jack Canfield (American Author, The Success Principles)

“One loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives.”

Euripides (Greek Poet)

50% of your friendships are fake.

I’m not exaggerating.

In general, people do a lousy job of discerning who their real friends are, from their fake friends.

You might be thinking, “not my friends”.

But, the research says you’d be wrong.

What we want is reciprocal friendships.

But, what we accept in our friendships only matches that half of the time.

So, what’s happening with the other half?

They’re in your life out of obligation, history, loyalty, or laziness.

But, you’re not just investing your energy into the good half.

You’re also investing your time and attention to the friends that are fake.

And, these are the ones that are Read More

Why Intelligent Achievement Is The Only Real Success

Published by: Isaiah Hankel

Topics :Emotional IntelligenceHow To Focus

“Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.”

Benjamin Franklin (American Politician)

“Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.”

Napoleon Hill (American Writer)

“Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort.”

Franklin D. Roosevelt (American President)

Everyone says they want success.

But, how do you know when you’ve reached success?

What does being successful actually mean?

Everyone’s definition of success, and how they measure it, is different.

Initially, it’s often superficial.


Typically based on predictable measurables that are akin to lottery odds or empty fulfillments.

Material gain… “stuff”.

Modest monetary goals.

Showy tangibles, but no substance.

Temporary achievables, but nothing sustainable.

It’s an image game.

But, it has no foundation.


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3 Skills That Will Make You An Elite Performer

Published by: Isaiah Hankel

Topics :Emotional IntelligenceHow To Focus

“Desire is the key to motivation, but it’s determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal — a commitment to excellence — that will enable you to attain the success you seek.“

Mario Andretti (Professional Race Car Driver)

“Difficult times disrupt your conventional ways of thinking and push you to forge better habits of thought, performance, and being.”

Robin S. Sharma (Leadership Expert/Author, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari)

”With regard to excellence, it is not enough to know, but we must try to have and use it.”

Aristotle (Greek Philosopher)

I recently started training and competing in Tough Mudder competitions.

This was something I wanted to do for a long time and now do once a year.

For years, I wanted to do one of these obstacle course races.

And never got around to doing it.

The reason I didn’t do it sooner was because I had filled my life with busy activities....

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